Friendship And Love

Love without Friendship is one-sided, while Friendship without Love is deception.

TO BEGIN WITH

Just started this new blog 4 days after my wife and I's 8th wedding anniversary. I used to have this same kind of format in my old blog in Multiply called "Up on the Roof."

Typically on Saturdays, there are trains of loving thoughts in my head that I wish to put on paper but have no way of doing because my two other blogs are of different themes. Thus, the creation of this website.

I dedicate this to all of you who are in love, falling in, and falling out, that you may remember that you are not alone in this journey.

FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE

What is the distance between Friendship from Love? Shouldn't have any.

Both are not better without the other.

Love without Friendship is one-sided, while Friendship without Love is deception. These two should go hand in hand.

Friendship blooms on Love. Meaning, Love is so much better with Friendship added. And relationships don’t work very well without either.

I am in love with, or do love very much, the friend that I have in my wife. I am glad that’s the case, because I wouldn't want it any other way than how I have it right now.

Nights are shorter with her around. It was always not enough. We talk about everything --- books, films, music, cooking, nba, poetry, the sea, God… the latest episode of No Reservations… everything and anything you can think of and can imagine.

10:00 pm is always the best time of the day for me… not breakfast, not writing corporate articles, not taking a bath, not shooting winning jump shots, not playing the guitar and singing with a crowd, not going home… the best is 10:00 pm, when I’m alone with my wife, a hot cup of tea, and our kids sleeping next to us.

Friendship is about being a friend, not having a friend. So it means that Love is loving rather than being loved.

This month is called the Love month, and it only makes me think of red roses, fancy restaurants, love letters, messages bent in fortune cookies, notes in bottles set adrift… I don’t have any of those, but kindness without expectation, that would be the gift.

What I’m only trying to say is --- be a friend to your wife, laugh with her, sing with her. Tell jokes, if she laughs before the punchline then you know she really loves you. It is good to be friends with someone you promised forever with.

- from "Friendship and Love," www.raymundtamayo.com

Raymund's Random Insights

By leaning on someone you love you help to hold them up.

When arguing, remember to remember to forget.

Silence never needs improvement.

Poem of the Week

I FEEL HAPPINESS AND KNOW YOU’VE COME INTO THE ROOM     

by Emon

I feel happiness and know you’ve come into the room.

Standing still

you do so in a way

that peace saturates the room,

the bed, the night, the world

where you choose to be.

There’s a sweetness in you

that covers everything it touches

so that smell, feelings

linger even when you’ve only passed.

What makes you extra ordinary

                        in every way

is that with you, within my life

no day is ordinary or alike.

While you move easy

                        or stand still,

inside the room or walking out,

know that you have strengthened, sweetened,

straightened out, made my life complete

forever.

(November 2007)

AND FINALLY

Since Multiply has shut down, and so goes "Up on the Roof" with it, I may publish old posts from my old archives. Hope to have you here again and often. Coffee is on me. :) Ciao, for now.

Thanks for stopping by - see you next week.